When It’s Ok to Turn a Do Into a Don’t


Using "Do Statements" to shape positive behavior; Removing the Stumbling Block

I can’t honestly think of too many times when it's "ok" to turn a do into a don’t. Actually, it’s typically just the opposite, especially with children. When trying to help shape a child’s behavior or teach a child a value, it’s far more effective to use positive language. For example, instead of “don’t run”, it’s a better choice to say, “walk” (the do is implied, of course).  

I feel strongly that we should all try to use "do statements" in both parenting and in teaching.

Nonetheless, I will break from my own advice for a moment. Once you watch this video called "Don't Limit Me", I think you will understand why.

 

With thanks to Cindy Barclay of Surprising Treasures for bringing this special video to my attention.



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  1. CindyAugust 12, 2013 at 8:25 AM

    Lisa- I think we think alike! I try to put everything from the positive :) As I watched Megan articulate so clearly, I began to see that even I can limit Bethany (oh, I like to think I'm her biggest advocate) but I "heard" something in Megan that pushed me farther as a mom- I not only want to advocate for Bethany- I want to EMPOWER her to think and advocate for herself. I'm so glad you're sharing the video clip! it's amazing to me!

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